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I have recently met a girl through online dating. We’ve been sending messages for while and now want to meet up this weekend on our first date. The chats we’ve been having are casual but  flirty and now I’m afraid I won’t live up to her expectations. I’m shy when I first meet people, I’ve always been more confident sending messages and writing, than face to face. Would like to hear from anybody else going through same personal experience.

Does anyone have any objective opinions to help me on my experience today please? I have been out on our first date with this woman that I met online, and things went well. When we came to say goodbye, it did look like she wanted a kiss, but nervously, I just gave her a peck on the lips, I did tell her that I had a good time and would like to meet up again, she did too. She texted me 2 hours after our date to tell me “It was lovely to meet you”. I didn’t pick this message up straight away, so I tried to call but it went through to her answerphone. I didn’t leave a message, but later texted back instead. I struggle to judge the appropriate “non-desperate” time frame. I haven’t had a text back from her yet, it’s now 3 hours after my text. I’m not sure what to make of this, and its driving me crazy. What should I do?

I like to think I’m good at dating girls, although I do feel like I’m always the one who arrange’s them.

I have had three dates so far with a girl I met on online dating. She was the first to propose that we should meet but I was the one who ended up arranging it and asking when she was free etc. She always says that she looks forward to seeing me but she is never the one to ask me out.

Does anyone have any advice? It would make a nice change if she said to me ‘Hey do you want to, etc’

I am thinking of meeting up with this girl I have been talking to on an online dating site. After the date, if I find there is no chemistry between us, how I do I respectfully end it with her without being rude? I want to be honest, but not come accross as harsh. Do I tell her at the end of the date that there was no chemistry and maybe I won’t want to see her again? Do I say it was nice meeting her and say I’ll be in touch then call, email or text her to tell her that I think we should go our seperate ways? I don’t want to be the typical bloke who never calls back, it’s happened to me before in the past and I don’t want to do that to any girl.

Any advice welcome

I had a first date with a girl yesterday, it went really well and we just spoke for 5 hours. Then I walked her home and she said she really enjoyed herself. We kind of left it at a hug and said we would meet again soon. I was wondering what I should do now? Should I text, ring or speak to her online? Should I ask her out again now or wait a week or so? I usually wouldn’t ask for advice but I dont want to mess this one up. Please help!

You’ve found someone through online dating that you think you might like. You chat with her over the net for a few weeks and all seems to be going well. The next step is to plan a date and you both agree. Now, the big day arrives and you get yourself looking good to meet the girl who could turn out to be the one! You get there early to make a good impression, and then she arrives.

Oh dear, that’s not what you were expecting, maybe she looked much better in her online photo, perhaps she hasn’t got the personality that you thought she had or that she seemed to have when you were talking online. You thought you had found your next girlfriend, but now it seems perhaps you haven’t, what are you going to do?

Comments please!

I’m going out on a first date for the first time in 10 years and I admit, it terrifies me. I’m 32, she’s 34 and we both came out of long term relationships last year and have been single since. Any advice would be much appreciated.

I met a girl through this online dating site and we went on a date about a week ago. The evening went ok, well on a scale of 1 to 10 I would say 5. She said after the date, that we should meet again. I agreed, and set another date, which we haven’t been on yet. Ever since that first date I’ve not been so keen to meet her again, and in particular am not sure if I would want a relationship with her. I’m worried that this second date will not go as well as the first. One reason being, that we did talk about quite alot in the 1st date, so I’m thinking we are not going to have much to talk about on the second, and I dont want those awkward silences to happen or either of us to feel uncomfortable. Ever since the first date I’ve been in two minds whether to call off the second date, and am really unsure what to do. What should I do? Should I just go on the date anyway, even though I’m thinking that I’m not that keen to have a relationship with this girl? How do I deal with this, any advice apprietated.

O.K. Is she interested in me or not?

Been chating online for 3 months, finally met but we seemed to be talking just like friends. After nearly two hours of being together she started to say she was getting tired so I took her home though we were chatting all the time. She was laughing and smiling. No hugs, no kisses but she was kind. I told her I’d love to meet her again and she just just replyed “See you”

Does that mean I’m waisting my time with her? Would you girls do the same if not interested in your partner?

I have met this girl through online dating and we have been getting on really well. The time has now come for us to meet face to face and so we are going to meat each other. I’m 21, she’s 20. What should I take with me? flowers, or a huge fluffy toy maybe? Where do I take her? Should I hug her when I meet or not? Please help!